Halal Shaadi

Umm Salama Hind bint Abi Umayya, may Allah be pleased with her, was married to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in 4 AH at the age of twenty nine, after her first husband, Abdullah ibn Abdul Asad, had died from the wounds he had received while fighting at the battle of Uhud. Umm Salama and her first husband Abdullah ibn Abdul Asad had been among the first people to embrace Islam in the early days of the Muslim community in Mecca. They suffered at the hands of the Quraish who tried to force them to abandon their new faith, and had been among the first group of Muslims to seek refuge under the protection of the Negus in Abyssinia. When they returned to Mecca, believing that the situation of the Muslims had improved, they found instead that if anything it was worse. Rather than return to Abyssinia, Abdal Asad and Umm Salama received the Prophet's permission to immigrate to Medina, but this proved not to be as easy as they might have imagined. In the words of...

Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatahu Marriage is an institution in itself. The idea of family that humans have accepted and adopted since times immemo­rial is directly the product of this institution of marriage. It provides humans with an organized way of running life and also con­structs social dealings and behaviours in many ways. Islam bestows mankind with the concept of Nikah and there are different schools of thought in Muslims who hold their views regarding marriage and its rel­evance in the current times. They all have their own perspectives in identifying its importance and the solutions which can help in solving the modern riddle of social dynamics in which marriage plays an es­sential role. Islam is the only religion in which marriage is done as a contract which becomes binding on both the sexes until they decide to break it given the situation and circumstances. The essence of marriage is to provide with and maintain individual as well as social tranquillity an...

Should Nikah be a temporary solution? Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatahu I find the answer to this question rather difficult . If I was in your shoes I would face the same dilemma, I would have liked to have both my cake and eat it as well. I would be keen to get my daughter married as soon as a nice appropriate rishta came but at the same time I would like to her to complete her study without any impediment. Basically in Islam one should get married as soon as it is possible to do so. Hazrat Ali said that a Muslim shouldn't delay in performing three things  i) Namaz ( Salat) when the time begins  ii) in getting married the girl when she reaches adolescence  iii) In funeral when Janaza is ready. However in this day and age there are other practical considerations of great importance and generally marriage does interfere in study where lot of sweating and hard work is required.             ...

1. "Ye baat dekhne me ati he ki aksar shadi shuda behen ya bhai jo jald hi nikah ke rishtey me bandhne wale hotey hen wo dusre ke maazi me kuch zyada hi dakhl dene lagt hen ya dilchaspi rakhtey hue logo ki kahi suni baato par yaqeen kartey hue uski taraf se bahut si galatfehmiya dil me betha lete hen jiska nateeja jhagdo, beyaqini ya zehni dabaw me samne aata he. Main ik chhoti si misaal se iski mazeed wazahat karna chahungi, maan len aapne kisi se phal ka bagh kharidkar qeem at ada kardi , ab wo kehne lage ki is bagh me jo phal ped ki shaakho pr moujud hai unpar mera haq he, kya aap uski baat manenge ?? ...Harghiz nhi aap kahenge ki ji maine qeemat ada kardi ab is bagh ke ped, phal zameen tamam cheezo par mera haq he..... theek usi tarah jab aapne kisi ko apne liye qubool karliya he to uske maazi, haal aur mustaqbil par beshaq aapka haq he lekin jis tarah aap apne maazi ko nazarandaz ya usse seekhtey hue aghe baadh jana chahtey hen theek usi tarah apne hamsafa...

In Islam, marriage is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, cooperation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Quran has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms: " And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts]." [Ar-Rum 30:21]   This is the strongest of bonds , in which Allah ta'ala unites the two Muslim partners, who come together on the basis of love, understanding, co-operation and mutual advice, and establish a Muslim family in which children will live and grow up, and they will develop the good character...

PART TWO A little flashback before we come to the part you are waiting for ☺ There was something very peculiar about Usman, He was not very fond of sharing his problems with others, always tried hard to keep his emotions in check, Didn't wanted to be exposed, Hated being vulnerable, was a very private person. Ali meant a lot for Usman too, he was a brother, his family was a second family to him and his wish... he considered it as his duty to fulfill. While this all was going on, in starting 90's Usman father was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, His venture on the Business was on the verge of crumbling, his brothers were going through their teen "experiences" and complaints from people were common , be it a Mohalla fight or cricket matches,His teen brothers were there without absent, and that all complaints came to him. Usman thought He could handle all of this, He chooses not to open himself up, He chooses not to be vulnerable, He had experienced and saw people mis...

Assalamoalaikum Warahmatullahi wabarakatahu 'Mehar' (also pronounced as dainMehar) which means dowry in the Islamic tradition is an  important Right of a wife in Islam,which becomes the responsibility of the husband to pay, soon after the Marriage, even if it is not mentioned in writing ,  It is an essential aspect, and it is assumed that there is an intention on the part of the bridegroom to pay Mehar and intention on the part of the bride to receive it.  Cool Right? A Marriage becomes annulled if the couple foregoes it, whatsoever it should be paid by the bridegroom and demanded by the bride!!!! In Islam, Marriage is a contract and Mehar is the name of that 'Right' which a wife gets from her husband. Qur'an says:  "Pay off the dowry of women willingly"(Verse No.4, Surah al Nisa)   Allah has ordained that you should pay Mehar toy our wives in lieu whereof you have legitimized sexual relations with them". (Qazi al Numan,...

Salam. Hello. Konichiwa. Hola. :) This post  is unrelated to what this blog is about but an Important one, since many of my NON Urdu/Arabic speaking friends were concerned that why have i chosen such "violent", "unmatched", "odd" name "HALAL" as a prefix for my blog! To be honest, i don't blame them, their perception about word 'Halal' comes from visiting cards & shop names of butchers spread all over globe who simply put 'Halal' on it, I mean the mental picture associated with halal is an uncle with skull cap & a big knife to chop meats !!!  But that is not what 'Halal' means. In Islam, Halal is an Arabic term meaning “ LAWFUL OR PERMISSIBLE ” The opposite of halal is Haram , which means " UNLAWFUL OR PROHIBITED " .  In reference to food, it is the dietary standard, as prescribed in the Quran (Muslim Scripture ). Halal and haram are universal terms which not only encompasses food and...

I was born in Manchester and moved to London when I was seven years old. I was raised in a moderately religious Muslim family, all of whom observed hijab. I therefore decided to observe hijab myself when I was eight years old and I continued to wear a headscarf (though not in the most modest of ways). I had just started work at a law firm and so began my “westernised” lifestyle; “drinks after work”, “birthdays”, “Christmas parties”, “events”, you name it- I did it. I justified my participation as just doing what was necessary to integrate with my peers, and because I didn’t drink and I didn’t engage in what was strictly and very outwardly “haram”, day by day I found myself becoming numb to the situations I was being exposed to. Soon enough they became normal; what seemed like a big deal at first, became normal and what became normal, became instilled in my life. For about a year, I got worse and worse, until I eventually reached what I thought to be a “balance”. I call ...

She believed in me when no one else did;  She accepted Islam when people rejected me;  and She helped and comforted me when there was no one else to lend me a helping hand.  - Muhammad Arabi Sallahu Alaihe Wasallam (Peace Be Upon Him ) about Khadija r.a Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatahu .. May Allah Subbhana wa’taala bless us with spouse who will believe in us , and help us to walk on Siraat e Mustaqeem. This noble lady, known to us as Mother of the Believers (Ummul Momineen) and the first wife of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (saw), was the first person ever to accept Islam after it had been revealed to him by Jibreel (Angel Gabriel). There is a truly beautiful story told by Yahya ibn Afeef about an occasion when he visited Makkah to stay with Abbas ibn Abd al-Muttalib, one of the uncles of Prophet Muhammad (saw). When the sun started rising, he said, "I saw a man who came out of a place not far from us, faced the Kaaba, and started...