Tarruuf - Brothers Special

Assalamoalaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatahu all,

Today we would like to talk about one of the taboos and much-hyped issue which is "Tarruuf" and how to do it.
Note: The next excerpt is just my imagination of a tarruf, it's not taken from any article or asked from ulema. So if I miss something or say something wrong, please help me correct my mistakes.

Alhamdulillah, this has been a habit of mine since I was in class 10th,I used to imagine how my precious Muslimah Wife would be like, every day I slept with thinking about Shadi and How beautiful Allah SWT has made the whole system that, even if someone looks at his wife with love, he gets a reward from Allah SWT, just as once get sins on looking at ghair Mehram.
So over the years, I have prepared a series of simple questions which I think are very important to know about each other (please feel free to add, if you brothers and sisters also have a list, might help someone  )

Phew, so here it is
Alhamdulillah I think it's very very intelligent to follow the shariah and not to be shy about it and both families and couples meet each other and see each other and not just Blindly trust Parents decisions, also parents should not be judgemental that their son/daughter doesn't trust their decisions, Actually the prophetic way is they both should MEET for nuptial talks & to actually see each other, as we all are well aware of Retrica/Beauty Clicks and many more such apps these days  . Fun apart, It is of great significance so that they or anyone doesn't belittle each other for looks.

So What I think is, when both families are together for this whole nuptial process, the to be groom should Be the Man and ask the to be bride after Salaam either directly or via his Mom/sister that who among all the Mahram of hers, she is more frank with! Be it Baaligh Brother, Uncle, Maternal Uncle, Abbu (whosoever is present and is mahram) and the girl will just tell the name. Because you would not like her to be a sitting duck, because she is afraid of her Abbu, like I am very frank with my Mom and sisters, uncle, aunties, and everyone but Abbu is a completely different story .
Why I told this? Because It's UnIslamic for girl and boy who intends to marry each other to mingle/Talk over phone/Hangout together/ CCD etc without the presence of Girl's wali. 

The Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan will be the third one present.”

So you will not want shaytaan to be a partner in the conversation also I came to know that few brothers ask many stupid Questions like, please lemme show your hair, I wanna see how long it is, and how beautiful you are... And many useless talks and nothing which was Really Important & also there are cases where sister may like some other brother and may Ask Brother who came for her hand to reject her, making any excuses and believe me if the guy is practising, he will not mumble a word, will pray for her and simply ask his parents that he can't marry the girl, he doesn't like her or anything and family relationships gets ruined, boy loose respect sometimes in eyes of his own parents. SO IT'S HIGHLY ADVISABLE TO HAVE A WALI with whom the girl is most frank with among all the available options present there.
Now we have less crowd, one wali and in sha Allah to be husband and wife.

So the first thing which Boy should say,
Alhamdulillah, are you willing to get married? Are you sitting here just because your parents asked you to do so or because you also intend to fulfill your half deen and please Allah SWT. Remember Shyness is pure beauty and you must have that much of sense of humor to understand from her silence that she is either shy or in dire need of help to get away from this tricky situation. 
If this condition fails, no need to go ahead, part ways happily, without grudge.
But if she says that she wanna study or want to get married after a year you can go ahead with questions.
Then give the sister chance to speak and encourage her to ask about anything she thinks might be related to this, like if she wanna run a school, work as NGOs, namaz, interest in deen, want to leave in a separate home away from in-laws, anything.
Tell her the importance of being frank this very moment could save a lot of trouble for both families. So once she starts asking, encourage her, be patient, you will have your chance too, answer her questions. Remember difference of opinions is not a bad thing, in fact, it's awesome as long as there is MUTUAL RESPECT & NO BELITTLING.
So after this stage, be very very very honest and tell her, why are you marrying, what's the actual purpose and then tell her about your deeni and financial conditions and how much you can bear and not how much yours or her father think you can (obviously these all are already known but let her know again) if it's all okay with her.
I think this is enough, and please don't, please don't, please don't ask her or your sister/mom/her sister for her phone no, it's NOT NORMAL!! jahan itte saal wait kiya, thoda aur sahi. Hold the vision, Trust the process 😇😇اِنَّ اللّٰهَ مَعَ الصّٰبِرِيْنَ‌ۚ Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Oh and one last thing, ask her if she wants anything specific in dainmehar, and after that, you can go back to your parents with salaam. And please take a day's time, go home, discuss with your family whatever you feel, want them to know, do istikahra (IF YOU ALREADY HAVEN'T BEFORE MEETING, WHICH YOU SHOULD HAVE) and please reply to them with proper reply yes or no as soon as possible, not like keeping them wait for weeks.
And Jahez aka Dowry aka Forced Charity. I think that goes without me saying anything.
So Alhamdulillah good luck having Tarruf and getting married 👰.

P.S: In case sister feels that boy is extra shy or is afraid to take the lead she can repeat the above process with her taking the lead.
But please don't ask brother that with which wali present you wanna get interrogated. And I couldn't find any picture related to tarruf so I just uploaded this beautiful outcome of that Tarruf in sha Allah.
JazakAllahu khairan, remember us in your Duas.

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